Husband help

While men can be unobservant to a fault, their wives can have unreasonable expectations and they can find the negative in genuine attempts at helpfulness. Ingratitude will make a husband believe that while he needs to be kind, at times it does not seem to be worth it. Here is some (increasingly difficult) suggested advice.

Wives, if you are expecting to do a job and your husband does it for you; don't complain, be grateful.

If he completes the job

• Don't complain that he did not do the job the way you would do it;
• Be grateful that you do not have to do the job.

If he does not do the job to your standards

• Don't complain that the job is substandard;
• Be grateful the job is essentially done and can be quickly spruced up.

If he doesn't finish the job

• Don't complain the job is incomplete;
• Be grateful that there is a smaller job to do than otherwise.

If he creates as much work as he saves

• Don't complain that he created work for you, he didn't;
• Be grateful he is wanting to help.

If, in the unlikely scenario, he creates more work than he saves

• Don't complain about all the work he caused you;
• Be grateful he made a gesture;
• And if this happens on a regular basis, let him know at an appropriate time that he may be better suited to other tasks.

And whatever you do, don't ask a man to do a job for you while he if actively doing it.